- Introductory Comments
- Some people ask “Do you still get nervous?” Yes, I do.
- I used to vomit in a bucket right before I went to speak. Now, I just throw up in my mouth.
- I really, really care about you. I want to help you grow in your leadership.
- I want you to like me.
- Is it a mistake to tell you I’m a little bit nervous? Maybe, but probably not.
- I could fake it. Impressing you is not the same as connecting with you.
- As a leader, to really move, to stir you, to inspire you, to stretch your faith to believe that you can do more, I can not just communicate to your head. I have to connect with your heart.
- “Heart Over Head – The Power of Emotions in Leadership”
- Emotions are not only relavant and important. They are the catalyst for change and grwoth.
- The fastest way to change someone’s mind is to connect with their heart.
- When you step into a meeting, you will want to communicate information that leads to action. You will think and do some form of this: Here’s what I want you to KNOW. Here’s what I want you to DO.
- Knowledge will rarely lead to action.
- You can know that sales are down by 4% but no one changes their behavior.
- You can know that church is down but nothing changes.
- The difference between knowledge and emotions: Knowledge leads to conclusions. Emotions lead to actions.
- What do I want them to know? What do I want them to feel? What do I want them to do?
- If you know sales are down and you won’t get the bonus, now you’re motivated to get the sales up.
- How do we harness the power of emotions to motivate them? You can do this anywhere.
- Share Stories Purposefully.
- Jennifer Aker – Marketing Prof at Stanford – asked students to share a pitch: 1/10 told a story. Only 20% remembered facts. 63% remembered stories in great details.
- Stories stick. Facts fade.
- Emotional processor – automatic and unconscious. You never have to get this worked up. It gets worked up on its own.
- Logical processor – it takes more fuel, more focus.
- Emotional processor is the default. It’s never rational.
- Logical processor compensates for the emotional irresponsibility.
- When you use a story, you connect the heart of emotions to the strength of logic igniting a powerful action.
- Example: 1.5 billion that do not have access to the Bible in their language. I want to help people get the Bible. Are you with me?
- When I went into college, I was really wild. I was majoring in sinning. How many know that sinning can be fun? If you don’t think sinning is fun, either you didn’t do it right or you’re lying. My sin caught up with me and I was hurting a lot of people. Tuesday came around and I realized that I didn’t have a Bible study and I was going to lead a Bible study. I walked out of my Economics class. I was walking across campus and a man said to me, “Young man, would you like a free Bible?” We read the Bible and we tried to pray. I got so excited that I read ahead. I read all the way to Ephesians 2. I read that you could be made right with God by the grace of God. I went out into a softball field hating who I had become. I knelt down one person and when I stood up I was different. There’s a truth and I am passionate about it.
- Stories stick and facts fade. No matter what you’re leading, share stories. Not just the what we do, but the why we do it.
- Simon Sinek – People will work for a what but they’ll give their lives for a why.
- Choose Your Words Deliberately
- The words you choose determine the emotions people feel.
- How many of you have visions and values? Vision drives us. Values shape culture.
- Vision and values should never be words on a wall, they should be burned on our hearts.
- Our church has some values. Instead of saying we reach people we say, “We will do anything short of sin to reach people no one else is reaching.”
- We don’t recruit volunteers, we release leaders.
- Don’t just give generic hope. Give prophetic promise.
- Show Vulnerability Thoughtfully.
- How many people know people who have overshared?
- We may impress people with our strengths. But we connect through our weaknesses, through moments of vulnerability.
- Show the people what’s in your heart. Lead with vision. Lead with boldness. Lead with vulnerability.
- Episode 51: Keeping it real
- Episode 53: How to be real and not be weird
- People would rather follow a leader who is always real than one who is always right.
- In between years 11-13 of our church, I was not sure I could continue. There was a huge conflict. I had lost the church I loved. I’m not capable. I’m probably not the person for this. I want to quit. I’m not good enough.
- I went to a conference and felt like the biggest hypocrite. In that lowest moment, I heard something that wasn’t audible. It seemed like a voice that was almost louder than audible: “Quit whining. You’re sharp. Fix it!” It was life. It was hope.
- Step into it and do what only you can do. I went back to my leaders and they are still there today. I apologized. What had been stuck and stagnant came back to life.
- You’re capable. You’re called. You’re gifted. You are a masterpiece! Feel inspired. Driven. Loved. Celebrated. Do what leaders do! Step into your calling! Embrace your mission.
- Leaders, like never before our world needs strong, integrity fused leaders. We will lead with profound humility and furious resolve We will inspire others to do more than they though possible. Wei will have the courage to stand up when others back down. Everyone wins when leaders get better.
- Create. Inspire. Innovate. Empower people to make a difference.
- You are a leader. You have influence. Bend the curve. Step into it. Leaders change the world.
Good job Trey. I could have done without the throw up in your mouth though! Lol. My dad thought a lot of you and would be proud of the leader you have become.